What makes me a better person?
We are constantly trying to be better, be more patient, be more efficient, be more active, be more loving, be more productive, be more fit, be more healthy, be more friendly, be stronger, try harder.... the list goes on. Why are we so after these things? Why do we keep beating ourselves up to be a better person? What is the idea of a good person?
The transformation of the external world due to the industrial revolution was accompanied with the transformation of the internal world. The values such as personal responsibility, discipline and will are getting more and more important even for the younger generation, because they don't just could make something of their self but they have to. All of a sudden there is an internal maximalism which causes higher pressure with oneself and ones economic life. Life can now be led successfully, just like a company, and this lifestyle needs control, measure and observation. The self is turning into a permanent development task with fixed goals. Am I doing the most of me? What can I reach during my life?
There is no doubt that we all have our own little perception of being a good person. We have an idea of how we should be to be that better person. But what exactly does it mean to be a good person and how does that look in "reality" and most importantly, what can we do to be a better person?
1. Love yourself - compliment yourself every day and make this a routine. You will feel strange at first, but the effect will show. And, when you're happy with yourself, that emotion can be contagious to those around you.
2. Don't make excuses - Blaming your spouse, boss, or clients is fruitless and won't get you very far. Instead of pointing fingers and making excuses about why you aren't happy or successful in your personal or professional life, own your mistakes and learn from them. When you do this, you will become a better person
3. Practice forgiveness - If for no other reason than for yourself, forgive to untether yourself from the negative experiences of the past. Take time to meditate, and give thanks for the wisdom and knowledge gained from your suffering. Practice the mantra, 'I forgive you and I release you.'"
4. Be helpful and honest - Learn to articulate your thoughts, feelings, and ideas in an open and honest manner. How much effort does it take to say, "Thank you," or to hold the elevator door open for someone? Not much at all. However, these acts of kindness can make someone's day. Being helpful is one of the easiest and most effective ways to practice becoming a better person. I find that the more I help others, the better I feel about myself and everyone around me.
5. Be respectful - Be respectful of others' time, thoughts, ideas, lifestyles, feelings, work, and everything else. You don't have to agree with any of it, but people have a right to their opinions and yours is not necessarily correct.
6. Be yourself - This includes being able to align yourself with your values and beliefs, establish your identity, build courage, create boundaries, and find focus and direction.